the blasted Fs

Feel. Forgive. Forget. You must first admit to yourself and God that you have feelings of anger, hate or ill will. Feeling is difficult enough without throwing in forgiveness. I hope you be will be raised to acknowledge all of your feelings whether or not they are "nice" feelings. I was raised to believe that it was bad to feel anger or hate. I don't think in the longrun that was conducive to a healthy lifestyle for me. It muted my senses. Caused me to make some wrong decisions. The feelings themselves are not evil, it is how you react to your feelings that count. It is a blessing to be able to forgive. If you ask for God's help, it is doable. I think forgetting is the toughest of the thre Fs. Thoughts have a way of creeping into your mind. And if you allow them to sit there they have a way of stirring up emotions that are not healthy if allowed to stagnate. I will always be there to help you sort out your feelings and guide you with God's help to put them in perspective. There will never be anything that you cannot discuss with me. With God's help we will be able to act appropriately and ask for the ability to forgive and the tenacity to forget.

here cumz da judge

It is extremely easy to pass judgment on yourself and others once you know what the outcome is. Some people refer to this as Monday morning quarterbacking. There's a common quatation that "hindsight is 20/20". Both mean that you would make a different decision if you knew what the outcome would be before you made a choice. And to further complicate matters, you don't know all the details of other people's lives. They may very well have made the best decision possible considering their circumstances. So it is wise to not cast judgment. Not on others, nor yourself. Instead, be truly compassionate and forgiving. Be there to console, not judge. Learn from your mistakes as well as from other people's errors. But judge not.

surrender

Surrender. I used to think of it as a flaw. A weakness. Giving up. Throwing in the towel. Well, it IS giving up. Surrender is giving it up to God. Admitting that you are not the one in control. Surrendering your will to God's may be on of the most difficult things you ever do. First, you must know God and believe He wants the best for you. Then you have to trust that he will show you how. and thirdly, you'll have to accept God's will over your own preferences. And finally you surrender, knowing that you are doing the right thing.

"Lord, when I surrendered myself to You, You showed me a way to not only survive, but to thrive."

When you find yourself in difficult situations, surrender and pray to God. Hopefully He will direct you to me as your guidance. Your confidant. And I will surrender myself when I ask Him to use me to show you the way.